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    I have a friend who is a lesbian she has a big dilemma, she would like to come out to her military dad who is not a big fan of the LGBTQ+ community, should she come out and tell him or just hide from him till she the end of her life?

  • #2
    It depends for me it's better if you tell them so that you won't have to hide every time you go out you can tell them if you are in the age where you can be independent then do it so you even they can't accept it you can just live independently.

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    • #3
      My advice for you is don't be afraid they are your parents they should understand and their love should pull through and support you no matter what happens you are their flesh and blood they can't just abandon you just because you are a bit different from other girls, believe in the love that your parents have for you.

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      • jerranour
        jerranour commented
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        Well, the abandonment rate is actually high. Your family, friends and other people who are close to you could leave you. I know as I had seen most people who came out have to deal with their lives harshly.

    • #4
      I'm assuming that friend is an adult already and lives on her own. So why not tell them directly about it and she doesn't need to worry about getting kicked out of the house since she lives by herself already

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      • #5
        I think she needs to weigh which is more important for her. Being in the closet until his dad dies or telling to him that she's a lesbian even if there's a huge chance that she would be disowned by her dad

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        • dorranlou
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          LOL. Okay, if she waits for the time of her father's death, she would bear the pain of not coming out for so many years. How many years more before coming out? 40 years?

      • #6
        Originally posted by HarSecConspiracy View Post
        I think she needs to weigh which is more important for her. Being in the closet until his dad dies or telling to him that she's a lesbian even if there's a huge chance that she would be disowned by her dad
        She's right on this one. All your friend has to decide is her own happiness or his dad's

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        • #7
          She should just hide her true identity from her dad. By coming out, she would be faced with lots of nasty stuffs. I do not think that it would be easy for her to tackle all those stuffs which she would face should she come out.

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          • #8
            Oh, there is already the desire to come out. If that is the case, then, sure, she may do it. Sometimes, we must follow what our heart desires. When we follow it, we get the liberation that we are seeking and longing for.

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            • #9
              She should come out now. She should not mind what her family would think of her. It is her life, and she has all the rights to do whatever she wants to have.

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              • grblng78
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                She might be afraid to get disowned by her father that's why she's having second thoughts of coming out of the closet.

            • #10
              Her father is in the military. There is a high probability that her father is in the field far from their home. Why not come out now and shock her father when he returns home for a few days vacation? She could say to her father: "Dad, you have a new son now."

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              • Girlie23
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                I could imagine how the face of her father would turn to red due to shock and disgust upon learning the great revelation from her daughter! LOL.
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